The Spark Show Episode 32: How to Deal with the Haters

How to Deal With the Haters Online

the spark show Sep 20, 2019

Welcome to The Spark Show! In this episode, I’ll be going over how to deal with haters, because we all know they’re out there. The more you grow, the more this will happen. It’s inevitable and you can’t please everybody. 

So first let’s talk about FEAR because this is where this comes from, this comes from a fear of judgment. You’re worried about what people are gonna say, how they’re gonna react. It happens to all of us, you are not alone. 

Even the biggest celebrities, personalities out there have experienced a fear of judgment. Especially now in this age of social media where one thing can be retweeted and shared a million times and then it becomes a whole thing. 

So I’ve talked about FEAR of judgment several times in my podcast and in my content because it’s something you’re going to have to overcome as an influencer. As someone who puts themselves out there, if you let that fear stop you, that will also stop you from making an impact and helping others. 

You can stay small and hide without being judged, or you can put yourself out there and go in it with the attitude and perspective of, “I’m going to be judged no matter what, so might as well be judged doing something I love doing and helping people”

Every day, you have to make a choice to take that risk. Are you going to put something out there even though some people may not agree with you? But you know that it may help some people out? 

Here’s the other thing. No matter how hard you try, no matter how much good intentions you have, there’s always going to be someone who doesn’t get it or like it. I’ve had people comment on my posts saying things about me and how I look, which has nothing to do with the value I’m trying to deliver. I’ve had hate emails saying I’m awful for not teaching and giving my services for free. You can’t stop it, it’s inevitable. 

There’s always someone else who has an opinion or something to say. The thing is, you can’t control other people. The only thing you can control is how you react to it and how you are affected by it. You can prepare for it, you can 

And this is where mindset comes in. You have to build your mindset muscle so strongly that when this negativity comes up (and it will) that you will not be derailed by it or it won’t affect your ability to show up for your audience that does like you and trust you, and cares about what you have to say. 

If you’re not working on your mindset on a daily basis, you’re in danger of having those moments where if negativity comes - it’s hard to bounce back. 

So when I mean mindset, I’m talking about a few things: 

  1. Daily ritual - morning routine, meditation, journaling, visualization, tapping, listening to podcasts, watching videos, reading books
  2. Being clear on your vision - reconnecting with your WHY every single day and knowing why you wanna do what you do, keeps you motivated and taking action 
  3. Having a mentor or coach - for most of us (me included), it’s hard to pull yourself out if you’re in a black hole of negativity but if you have someone to support you and keep you accountable - it really helps. 

Also if you’re learning from someone who is already doing what you wanna do and has done it already, then you can save a lot of time, money, frustration and headaches from trying to figure it out on your own. 

So right now, there’s two ways you can get mentorship and coaching from me - you can join The Spark Society VIP if you’re just starting out as an influencer and you want to learn how to get paid brand deals. If you’re interested in this, the next step would be to watch my free Brand Deal masterclass that shares with you my exact process and if you want to you can join my DIY membership where you’ll get access to my courses and tools to help you do this. 

Now throughout my journey, I realized that brand deals are great but they are not sustainable. You can’t really know how many brand deals you’re gonna get and how much you’ll be making every month. So now I’m also helping influencers not only get brand sponsorships but to launch their digital offer in the next 90 days. 

You see as influencers, we have two customers - our audience and brands. Yet so many influencers are chasing after brands and just wanna grow their following to get those brand deals. 

When they have several thousand people who they can serve right now. If you’re not offering anything to your audience, you’re neglecting your audience. If you have a digital offer, you’re also neglecting the possibility of creating a sustainable and impactful six-figure business. 

Right now, I’m helping clients create their membership program, their first course, their first program because they realized that while they’re building their following and waiting for brand deals to happen. They can be helping their audience in a deeper way. 

So my team and I have set aside some time to talk to you to see if this is the right fit, you can schedule a FREE breakthrough call with us ONLY if you fit the following criteria: 

  1. You’re 100% committed and ready to do this 
  2. You’re coachable, willing to take feedback and do the work to get results
  3. You’re ready to invest in high-level coaching to build your six-figure business

You can head to to apply for a free breakthrough call to help you get the clarity you need. 


This is not for you if:

  1. You are just dabbling and not serious about doing this, right now this is just a hobby
  2. You are a complainer and always have excuses, if you have a victim mindset
  3. You are not get the coaching you need to grow your business. 

That's it! 

Listen to the full episode here: 


Listen to Previous Episodes: 

Building a Unique Brand with your Personality featuring Tyler J McCall

Influence = Impact

Using your Influence for Good featuring Ashley Fultz

How to be More Confident on Camera

When to Hire a Professional Photographer featuring Lin Marty

Why Brands Pay Influencers the Big Bucks

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